Tuesday, 2 September 2014

Just Another Day

Today was just another day.

Just another day, but also the day that the twins started school for the first time.

We walked to school for the first time, went into the classroom for the first time, put their book bags in their drawer for the first time.  But it was just another day.

Other mothers were anxious.  They held back the tears.  I didn't.

I felt guilty.  Shouldn't I be feeling the same way?

My husband said "it's never the same as it is with the first one", and I think he's right (shh, don't tell him that ;)). He is.

With DS1 I had walked him in to school with a lump in my throat, choking back tears and promising myself that it would all be ok, that he would be ok.  It would be wouldn't it?

Well, sometimes it was and sometimes it wasn't.  I was upset for him when other children were mean to him.  I was happy for him when his teacher said nice things about him.  I was angry when the school didn't seem to understand us.  I learned to take the rough with the smooth.  School didn't feel such a big deal for either of us eventually.

This time?  Nothing.  They were happy.  I was happy.  It was relaxed.  We said our goodbyes and walked home.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing after all.  I knew they would both be ok.  Not only did they have each other and their big brother there, but I knew that whatever happened today, they would be ok.  I know they will still be ok tomorrow.  And the day after that.

If only I could only go back in time and tell my first time parent at the school gate self that.  But I can't. 

I can tell you, the other first time parents this.  Your child will be fine.  You may not, and that's ok.  Just take it in your stride.

Maybe by the time your second and third child are as school you will feel like me too.  And, you will smile and not be worried.  You will be looked upon as someone who has done this all before (as I was today - that was a bit weird and yet strangely flattering).

Because, it is just another day.

Thursday, 28 August 2014

How Does Your Garden Grow? - August

I can't be the only person thinking "What on earth happened to the summer?".  It has definitely left the North West of England that's for sure.  The sunshine, when it appears, is watery, the sky is mostly full of clouds instead of house martins, the plants in the garden have started to turn brown and drop leaves all over the lawn.

As I was looking out at what passes for our garden these days the other morning, I was surprised at just how many leaves there were, but on closer inspection they weren't leaves at all.

An entire carpet of mushrooms has grown under the trees in one corner of the garden.

One of the many reasons I like joining in with HDYGG? every month is that it allows me to not only document the changes in the garden month by month but also to appreciate the things that are unexpected or shouldn't be there too.  I should really get around to mowing the grass at some point, but I'm rather enjoying popping out every day and seeing the mushrooms there for now.

Another thing I'm still enjoying in the garden are the cheeky birds who come to use our bird feeder.  Now, in the past I've been a bit rubbish at feeding the birds, but my mum gave us a big tub of wild bird food (after some mice had broken into our shed and eaten all of ours!).  This really seems to have made a difference with attracting the birds to come back - then are mad for the stuff!  At the moment I'm filling the feeder three times a week which is amazing considering that last year I had to clean the feeder after I found grass growing out of it!  I'm particularly fond of the blue tits that come every day and balance one on each side while they eat.  The pidgeons are rather keen on this too as they get anything that is dropped on the ground below.  I never get any pictures of them however, as soon as I whip out a camera this happens!  I will get a picture one day.

The other garden birds are clearly getting ready for the colder weather too and blackbirds have stripped the berries of the laurel - it was laden with them a few weeks back.

Even my herbs have started to wind down production for the year.  I have tried and tried to encourage my parsley plants this year but they have all ended up like this.  Usually I would have a freezer full of the stuff by now.  

Still, at least some things are continuing the way they are supposed to - this photinia still looking lovely! (I know I've shared before but it really was looking extra shiny and red yesterday!)

In the next couple of months on the to do list - another garden chop back I think.  I want to try to get things looking tidy for over the winter.  My mum has kindly donated some bulbs (and planted them!) so we may even have flowers for spring!


Wednesday, 27 August 2014

Wicked Wednesdays

Is it really Wednesday again already?  I don't know where the time goes!  Well, with only one week to go until the end of the school holidays I have been forced to do something this week that usually strikes fear into my very heart.  Yes that's right, we've been crafting.

The reason for this completely out of character behaviour from me?  Well, if you have been reading for some time you might remember the Talking Boxes that we are duty bound to fill up with stuff to prove that we have had an enriching and educational summer break.

That hasn't entirely gone to plan though.

Being fairly organised on the back to school front, I decided last week that I might as well have a quick look inside to make sure that there were no Cava corks this time was a representative amount of fun stuff/evidence to show the twin's teacher that we are really a very normal family.  Instead I just found empty boxes.


So, I was resigned to get out the craft box and make and fill the boxes with as many enriching activities I could think of in a week.  It felt a bit like Challenge Anneka in the 80s to be honest, except there were no jumpsuits or helicopters.

I thought I'd ease myself in gently with a bit of baking, you know, take a few photos for the box, simple.

Some people didn't see it that way.

This is a picture I took of DD2 after I told her that her brother would need to help (so I could take photographic evidence for both boxes, natch).

Exasperated much?


Wednesday, 20 August 2014

Wicked Wednesdays

Cor, I can't believe we're nearly on the home straight now to the end of the summer holidays.  Thank heavens for Wicked Wednesdays, without which I probably wouldn't have blogged at all during these last few weeks.  Fortunately for me the holidays do provide me with plenty of poorly shot photographic material to share with you all, as my children continute to run rings around me and drive me to drink.

This week was DD1's 12th birthday.  Yes I know there are only three candles on the cake.  The truth is that I was totally winging it as usual and didn't check the candle situation until it was too late, useless mother that I am.  Anyway, you might guess that with no DH to help with the candle lighting and picture taking, as he was at work, that things didn't entirely go to plan...



Three!  Oops!

Yes, I really am this crap at taking photographs.  Oh well, there's always next year...


Wednesday, 13 August 2014

Tuesday, 12 August 2014

Big Foot

One minute your little toddler is happily running around in his new shoes (the ones you've just purchased as a complete indulgence because he didn't really need them yet) like this:

And the next, well just look at what you are forced to purchase in the name of fashion...

They are BIGGER THAN MY SIZE as well.  I am buying adult shoes!  Adult shoes for a child who is anything but an adult at times!!

All I want to do is shout "stop growing!" or at least "slow down a bit will you?".

People talk about the hidden cost of raising a child all the time.  I wish I could hide this cost...

£45!!  They are not even leather!!

The moral of this tale - Teens are expensive not so little blighters.  True fact.

Still, at least DH and I can have his hand me downs...

Wednesday, 6 August 2014

Wicked Wednesdays

Despite the fact that it's the summer holidays and we are having a little downtime at the minute, I decided last week that one thing I was determined to do was to try to feed the children a little better.  My husband suggested making a stir fry for their tea, so that's what we did.  Unfortunately for some the addition of broccoli was a step too far...

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